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Constructive dialogue is pertinent to your relationship with your young soccer player. US Youth Soccer's Positive Parenting published the article Dear Mom or Dad in a letter format, written from the child's perspective to the parents concerning what the child wants and needs from the parent for effective communication.
When you encourage me, I feel confident and proud of myself. When you recognize things that I do well, I will repeat them. When I repeat them, I need for you to notice. I need to know the specific things that I do well on the soccer field.
I know when I have made a mistake – you don’t need to remind me. I feel embarrassed and belittled when you call attention to my mistakes in front of other people. I learn from my mistakes with my coaches and my team - but you are not my coach, so when you criticize me, it makes me feel like a failure as your child.
As my parent, you are my most important role model. Please support me, support my friends and teammates, the referees and even the opposing team through positive, constructive comments. If you have a negative opinion about anyone or anything that happens in my game or practice, please keep it to yourself…even on the way home in the car. The most important thing you can say to me is, “You played great…did you have fun?”
I want to show you the skills I’m developing, how I’m improving, and ultimately what a great soccer player I am becoming. I can’t remember everything and there’s so much to share, so please ask me specific questions about what I’ve learned!
There are many, many more!